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Dear Alice,
My boyfriend has suggested "tit sex" as an alternative to intercourse, which we want to wait a while to go ahead and do. I want to know, what exactly is "tit sex" and how do you do it? Will it hurt?
Dear Reader,
Get ready to put your best boob forward!
Tit sex (also called breast sex) involves sliding a penis between the breasts. If you’re feeling a little nervous, that’s okay. Taking it slow and communicating with your partner may help you both feel more comfortable. Also, with lube and a gentle touch, it can be fun and painless for everyone involved. Read on to learn more about breast sex, whether it can hurt, and any risks you may want to keep in mind.
What is breast sex?
Breast sex is a kind of sexual play where a penis is placed between a partner’s breast. The breasts are usually squeezed together while the penis thrusts back and forth between them. This motion is similar to the motion during penetrative sex. It’s one playful way to appreciate the twin peaks.
Does breast sex hurt and if so, how can you reduce this pain?
Breast sex typically isn’t painful, but sometimes friction can take the fun out of the breast fest! That said, adding lube can help everything glide more smoothly. You can choose from water-, silicone-, or oil-based lubes, depending on what feels best.
Make sure to check the ingredients first before using lube. Some lubes, especially oil-based ones, may contain ingredients such as tree nuts or seeds that can cause allergic reactions. But with the right lube, things can stay smooth, fun, and tit-illating.
Additionally, communicating with your partner can perk up the experience for the both of you! Setting clear expectations and discussing boundaries can relieve some worries about the process and help it go a bit smoother.
Are there risks to having breast sex?
While breast sex is typically low risk, there are some health considerations to keep in mind.
For example, if your partner ejaculates, semen might land on the face. Sometimes, it can even land in your eyes, so it might be a good idea to protect your eyes during breast sex. Semen in the eye can cause irritation, a stye, conjunctivitis, or sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
While the risk of STI transmission is low, transmission during breast sex is still possible. This is because most STIs can be passed through skin-to-skin contact or through exposure to bodily fluids like semen, vaginal fluids, anal secretions, saliva, blood, or breast milk.
STIs that spread through skin-to-skin contact can be tricky to block entirely. Barriers like condoms or dental dams might not cover every potentially infectious area. That said, condoms are still effective at reducing the risk of STIs that spread through bodily fluids, such as chlamydia. As an additional prevention method, you and your partner might consider getting tested before engaging in sexual activity. Getting an updated bill of health can keep sex stress-free and fun.
Breast sex might feel a bit nerve-racking at first, but with some lube, protection, STI testing, and communication, it can become a boob-tiful time for you and your partner.