Feeling suicidal... Help!
What do you do if you feel suicidal and don't have anyone to tell?
Having thoughts of suicide may be scary and overwhelming but you aren't alone. Many people have dealt with suicidal feelings at various times in their lives, and asking for help is a major step forward. If in crisis, it's recommended to seek support right away. If you aren't able to ask a friend or family member for help, you might try contacting a mental health professional. You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, which offers free, confidential support 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It’s okay if you're unsure how to begin the conversation. One option is simply saying "I need help." The crisis worker you speak with can take it from there.
Here are some strategies you can try if you’re having thoughts of suicide:
- Try creating space between your thoughts and any action. Having thoughts of suicide doesn’t have to lead to suicide completion. Experts urge people having thoughts of suicide to wait and create space between your thoughts and any action. One way to do this may be to make a promise to yourself that you won’t act for a set period (for example, that day or week).
- Try to minimize drug and alcohol use. Consider abstaining from drugs and alcohol, as they may contribute to thoughts of suicide.
- Try to reduce access to means of harm. Remove potentially lethal means such as prescription or nonprescription drugs, knives, razors, or guns from your home. If you can’t, consider going to a different location, where you feel safe. Or, if overdosing is a possibility, have a person you trust store and help you regulate the use of any prescribed medicine.
- Share your suicidal thoughts with others. Letting someone know about your thoughts, such as a family member, friend, mentor, mental health professional, health care provider, professor, coach, or a person in your spiritual community may help provide some support.
- Try to remember that you’re not alone. Many people have experienced thoughts of suicide and have gone on to have fulfilling lives. With time, this might be a possibility for you, too.
Adapted from HelpGuide
Once you've utilized some of these strategies, it may be helpful to try to get connected with some mental health resources. If you're a student, you could try contacting your school's mental health services to get connected with a provider. Even if it's beyond typical office hours, your school may have an after-hours service that could provide assistance. If you have health insurance, another option is contacting your health insurance company to get a list of providers covered under your plan. A health care provider may also be able to recommend a mental health professional to you. Otherwise, you may consider a resource like Psychology Today to find a mental health professional in your area. The Q&A Sliding scale therapy options for non-CU boyfriend provides more information about how to access mental health services if finances are a concern. Lastly, along with The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, other helpful resources for suicide prevention include Befrienders International, the American Association of Suicidology, and Suicide Awareness Voices of Education.
Having suicidal thoughts may indicate that your life seems unbearable and that the pain you’re experiencing might feel all-consuming and never-ending. However, know that the intensity of your current emotional suffering may pass with time. In-the-moment feelings of hopelessness and depression might distort your decision-making process, along with your understanding of yourself and the world around you. For this reason, when in a state of extreme distress, experts urge individuals to postpone the decision to end their lives. If you choose to keep living, you may have the chance to experience positive feelings and events in the future.
Once you are no longer in distress, you may want to think about long-term ways to reduce thoughts of suicide and improve your quality of life. HelpGuide provides some recommendations such as:
- Identifying what may cause suicidal feelings. Suicidal thoughts and feelings may increase with anniversaries of loss, alcohol and drug use, and relationship stress.
- Practicing self-care. Recommendations include eating a well-rounded diet, sleeping the recommended seven to nine hours, being active, and getting outside. It could be helpful to try doing some activities that make you feel more relaxed and balanced.
- Identifying the people who can support you. Being mindful of spending time with people who lift you up and support you may help to increase positive feelings. This includes spending time with them in person.
- Finding activities or interests that excite you and make you happy. Consider participating in activities that feel meaningful to you, and if possible, avoid spending time on activities that make you feel worse.
- Practicing stress management strategies to cope. Being physically active, meditating, engaging in relaxation strategies (such as breathing exercises), and working to reframe negative thoughts are potential options.
- Developing a daily routine. If you don't have one, you might consider creating a daily routine and sticking to it to give your life more structure.
- Creating a safety plan. Determining a plan to address suicidal thoughts if they return may help you take steps to mitigate them and seek care before they escalate.
Talking to a mental health professional or someone else you trust may help you better understand and manage your current and any future suicidal thoughts and feelings. Thank you for your courageous submission. Wishing you the best as you work towards seeking the help you deserve.
Originally published May 01, 1994
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