Weird to ask my doctor to find G-spot?

Dear Alice,

Would it be weird, or even legal, for me to ask my male family doctor to help me locate my g-spot? What are the chances he would physically feel around for it? Or would he maybe feel too uncomfortable?

Dear Reader,

Regardless of your health care provider's gender, if they are abiding by the American Medical Association's (AMA) Code of Medical Ethics, then a request for hands-on assistance in finding your G-spot is a definitive "no." While a health care provider may sometimes need to touch the genitals of a patient for clinical purposes (for example, a routine pelvic exam), nonclinical contact is strictly forbidden. Even though the intent of your request is educational rather than sexual in nature, it would still be considered an inappropriate form of sexual contact between yourself and your provider. In fact, the AMA considers any romantic or sexual interactions between a patient and physician to be unethical, stating that “such interactions detract from the goals of the patient-physician relationship and may exploit the vulnerability of the patient, compromise the physician’s ability to make objective judgments about the patient’s health care, and ultimately be detrimental to the patient’s well-being.” This rule is in place to ensure that the best care possible is made available to patients, as there is an uneven power dynamic between a health care provider and those they treat.

However, if your goal is to learn how to locate your G-spot, there are other avenues open to you. A health care provider may be able to offer a brief anatomy lesson, demonstrate the approximate G-spot location on an anatomical model, and offer suggestions for how you might find it yourself. All of these options are in alignment with the AMA’s Code of Medical Ethics as they position your health care provider as an educational resource and don’t involve any medically unnecessary physical contact between the two of you.

If you're not quite comfortable having this conversation with your regular health care provider, you may wish to explore other options, such as talking with a sex therapist. Sex therapists are qualified professionals trained to educate and support people around a myriad of topics relating to sex, sexual health, anatomy, and relationships, such as low libido, erectile dysfunction, pain during sex, and difficulty achieving orgasm. Like other health care professionals, sex therapists are strictly prohibited from engaging in any kind of sexual contact or activity with a client.

Ultimately, your best bet may be right at your fingertips. While a health care provider or sex therapist might be able to demonstrate on anatomical models in an office setting, you might also benefit from some hands-on self-exploration in the privacy of your own home. There are a ton of reputable resources available online, from anatomy diagrams to blog posts made by fellow G-spot explorers, and there are also some questions about the G-spot in the Alice! archives too. All you need to aid you on your quest is an internet connection and a thirst for adventure.

Happy exploring and good luck!

Last updated Sep 30, 2022
Originally published May 08, 2009

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