Dear Alice,

I'm curious what the etiquette is for the whole "spit or swallow" debate. How much fluid is to be expected from ejaculation exactly? And whatever is to be done with it if one decides not to swallow? Are we talking tissues by the bedside? What? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

— clueless in the oral sex department

Dear clueless in the oral sex department,

You're not so clueless; tissues or a towel by the bed into which you can quietly deposit the one teaspoon (five milliliters) or so of your partner's ejaculate is the quick and easy exit strategy, although the taste of semen will remain for a time. A quick trip to the bathroom for a spit and rinse with water or mouthwash will take care of the aftertaste. Bringing your ejaculator with you can help to keep the post-climax togetherness going. Returning the semen to its rightful owner is another option; you may want to talk this one over with your partner before your mouth is full. Lobbing his gob across the room with desperate spitting and hacking sounds is most certainly a no-no in any manners manual.

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