My penis: No match for a vibrator!

Dear Reader,

Many men worry about not being able to satisfy a partner because of the fear that their penis is too small. And while some people may prefer larger penises, most will tell you that it isn't about how big the penis is, but that it's got more to do with what you do with it and how you use your fingers, hands, tongue, mouth, and other body parts to give and receive pleasure.

Before taking your girlfriend's friends' comments to heart, why not have a talk with your girlfriend about her feelings? She may have no desire either to use a vibrator or even to have sex at the present moment. Frank discussion, trusting yourself, and disclosing your feelings can strengthen the emotional bond you two share, making decisions easier about sexual issues.

Also, sexuality isn't something that is "discovered" once and set in stone. A person's understanding of her/his sexuality evolves over time with new input, experiences, and partners. Sharing your feelings and desires, and listening to your partner's, is one way you can continue to discover new things about your partner and yourself.

Men can also fear being replaced by their partner's vibrators or other sex toys. While vibrators provide a satisfying physical experience, they can't replace the emotional support, pleasure, and intimacy that partners provide. Can a vibrator hug her in the middle of the night? Provide reassurance? Listen to the details of her day?

While your penis may have no vibrating function, you have your and your girlfriend's imagination, emotions, and entire bodies to pleasure however you and your partner desire. If you both want, you can even include her vibrator (if she chooses to get one, that is). You may be surprised at what you both can learn, and feel, when you choose to be sexual together.