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Is it okay if I like to have sex with a lot of females? This question is from a male. I am a young man and I am wondering about the likelihood of this habit extending into my married life (if I get married).
One of the things that Alice really respects is the many and varied differences among people's thoughts, desires, feelings, and behaviors. Since each of us is unique, no one can say (not even Alice!) what is in your future. If you think you would like to have sex with a lot of women, due to curiosity, desire for variety, or wanting to experiment with or experience many women, this does not necessarily impact on your future. Even when you choose to marry, you will still be a thinking human being who makes choices. For example, perhaps after you have experimented and experienced more variety than you have ever wanted, then you may choose to be with only one person who chooses only to be with you. On the other hand, you may decide that variety is what you want. Given that, there are many people who choose to maintain, and even cultivate, that variety after marriage, either consensually or non-consensually.
If , for any reason , you are not talking about a desire, but a need or compulsion for a series of partners, or if you do not feel in control, then some counseling, therapy, or a 12-step group may be in order.
The message Alice wants you to have is that you are in control of your life and your choices. (If, in fact, you choose to have sex with a number of women, just remember to include your safer sex techniques for them as well as for yourself).
