Dear Alice,
Too short to date?
No way! Yes, many women do prefer to date a TALL guy. I being one of them, but then again, I'm 5'2". I have dated all heights from 5'4" to 6 feet. I...
Too short to date?Originally Published: February 24, 1995 - Last Updated / Reviewed On: August 5, 2005 |
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Dear Alice,
I am a twenty-three-year-old man, and I haven't had any kind of sexual intercourse for the last year and a half. I have gone this long because I am intimidated by women. Even though friends and women tell me that I am attractive, I am still very self-conscious about my physical appearance. I always feel that women will not take me seriously because of my height (5'5"). What should I do?
— Self-conscious
Dear Self-conscious,
From the sound of your letter, it seems that you have had sexual intercourse in your life, previous to the last year and a half. So, don't forget that some women have already taken you seriously, regardless of your height! You need to remember (all the time!) that what's more important than your height itself is how you feel about your height. If your height bothers you, and you walk around feeling self-conscious and intimidated, people will respond to your self-consciousness and your feelings of inadequacy. If, on the other hand, you know that you're a good person, attractive, and a young healthy guy, and project THAT image to the world, women will respond to you in a different way. Sure, some women wouldn't dream of dating a guy who's 5'5" — but some women wouldn't dream of dating a dark-haired guy, or a guy who's 6'4", or a guy who works on Wall Street, or a guy who is from a particular ethnic background... So, focus on your good qualities and meet lots of people. At some point, the chemistry will be right, and, rather than being intimidated, you'll both be wanting to check out each other more intimately. Good luck!
August 2, 2005
20919Dear Alice,
Too short to date?
No way! Yes, many women do prefer to date a TALL guy. I being one of them, but then again, I'm 5'2". I have dated all heights from 5'4" to 6 feet. I see many good looking short men. I would not turn a man down based solely on his height. Currently, I am dating a guy who's 5'6".
If it can't be changed, what's the point of worrying about it. Enjoy your life; life's too short.
June 21, 2005
20914Dear Alice,
I'm only about 5'6" and I have romantic relationships fairly often. Any time I go through a dry-spell, however, I do quickly fall into the mindset that I might never date again. But...
Dear Alice,
I'm only about 5'6" and I have romantic relationships fairly often. Any time I go through a dry-spell, however, I do quickly fall into the mindset that I might never date again. But I always surprise myself. Keep your hopes up.
~Optimistic