Originally Published: April 26, 1996 - Last Updated / Reviewed On: February 12, 2010
My girlfriend and I want to experiment more with our love making. We want to try more role playing, but we need some good ideas to try out. Could you please give some suggestions?
— Wanting to be an Actor
Dear Wanting to be an Actor,
The English poet John Keats once said, "My imagination is a monastery and I am its monk." These words of wisdom don't necessarily suggest that you and your partner dress up like clergy and "disrobe." Instead, his prose should serve as applause to you and your girlfriend for experimenting with fantasy in your sex life. Yes, fantasies can come true, but of course, some are most appropriate between intimate partners within the confines of a private space. That said, here are some suggestions for sexy role-plays, complete with verbal cues:
- School Teacher and Student: "I think you need to stay after class for some private tutoring."
- Flight Attendant and Passenger: "Coffee, tea,... or me?"
- Homeowner and Plumber: "Hurry, I need you to unclog my pipes!"
- Police Officer and Burglar: "Spread 'em!"
- Firefighter and Frightened Citizen: "Let me get my hose and put your fire out."
- Photographer and Subject: "Why don't we try some with your clothes off...smile."
- Star "Trekee" and Star Trekee: "Beam me up Scotty, a Klingon's invading Uranus!"
- Madonna and Adoring Fan: "Get into the groove, boy, you've got to prove your love to me."
You could also role-play situations from your past: the first time you met, adventures of your favorite storybook characters, or that special anniversary years ago. Reversing roles might be fun as well. If one of you is usually dominant and the other passive, switch. And don't forget about the clothes closet, kitchen, laundry room, garage, and backyard — all full of the stuff of dreams and fantasies!