Safe sex and double penetration

Originally Published: April 22, 2011
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Dear Alice,

I am curious about double penetration (two penises in one vagina). Because of the increased friction, even if both men are wearing condoms, is there more of a risk that the condoms would break?

Dear Reader,

Double your pleasure, double your fun? For some, that is certainly the case! Though double penetration (by way of two penises in one vagina) may whet your whistle, you are on point with your suspicions. There is a greater chance that the condoms will break because of the increased friction. Whether you're "double bagging" (one person wearing two condoms at the same time) or two condomed objects are coming into contact with one another, this friction is not the kind of "heat" you want in the boudoir. Read more about this in Are two condoms better than one?

There are multiple meanings to double penetration ­— it's defined differently by different people. In general, the term covers simultaneous penetration of the vagina, anus, and/or mouth by two or more objects (i.e., penis, fingers, sex toys). The possibilities are endless! Like any sexual activity, to keep it safe and enjoyable for all involved, using a condom (regardless of the penetrating object) is recommended to prevent pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

If your motto is "two is better than one," though, there are plenty of ways to enjoy double penetration safely. Instead of two objects penetrating one orifice at the same time, you and your partner(s) may want to consider pairing vaginal or anal penetration with oral penetration instead. There are a bunch of combinations such as this that don't necessitate condom-on-condom action. If it's the girth of the penetrating object that is the real fire starter, consider exploring fisting or sex toys as a less risky option to stoke the flames.

Other tips to keep in mind are making sure the person being penetrated is relaxed and fully aroused before penetration begins. Manually stimulating the clitoris, prostate, or other hot spots may help with this. Furthermore, having an orgasm prior to penetration may facilitate muscle relaxation. Keeping lots of water-based lube on hand is also helpful to cut condom compromising friction during penetration. Most importantly though, communication is key! Talking with your partner(s) before, during, and after about what feels good may help you find ways to double or even triple your pleasure.

Alice