Condom comes off and takes hair with it — ouch!

Originally Published: October 12, 2001 - Last Updated / Reviewed On: August 3, 2007
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Alice,

How can I take a condom off without it ripping the hair off of my penis? I have considered shaving and other hair removal methods, but rejected them on the basis that the solution is nearly as painful and/or troublesome as the problem. The pain caused by this problem can kill the mood real quickly even if my partner and I are ready for more.

Dear Reader,

Ouch! What a nusiance, and a buzz-kill. Before you shave, try this: Smear a little water-based lube on your penis or around the ring on the inside of a rolled-up condom before you put it on. This may make for more comfortable and uninterrupted pleasure when you take it off. Keep in mind, a snugly fitting condom should remain snug throughout the motion, pressure and friction produced during sex — even with that extra dab of lube.

Why not try this option out first by yourself — maybe when you masturbate — by simulating movements and the grasp felt when you're inside your partner? Afterwards, slowly roll or slide the condom off from the base of your penis to see if this solves the pubic hair-pulling problem. Gently stretching the tighter ring at the open end of the condom slightly out and away from the shaft of your penis, and then running lubed thumbs along your penis between it and the condom as you remove it, can also help to prevent some of those locks from getting caught up in a latex lawnmower. As always, you and your partner can experiment with these options together.

Depending on how much hair we're talking about, could you prep them prior to getting 'em in the condom? Might smoothing or combing them down and toward the tip of your penis make for less tugging when the condom passes over them on its way off? Some men and women choose to trim their pubes; trimming yours may keep them away from the grasp of the condom — just be sure to be careful when you're clipping down there! You could also gently stretch the condom at its ring as you roll it up or down to help reduce unwanted hair snagging and/or removal before and after the condom is used.

Now that some major hair care issues have been addressed, what about the condoms you're using? Could you go with a slightly looser fit? They should grab, but not choke, your chicken. Condoms are not supposed to move around when they're on, nor require a crowbar to take them off. Again, you can try 'em on to learn which sizes and brands work for you.

If the "ripping" situation persists beyond your comfort zone, you might revisit voluntary hair reduction or removal. Reading the related archived Q&As below might ease your concerns about what's known in the biz as "pubic hairdressing."

Alice