Boyfriend sits down when he urinates

| Originally Published: October 6, 2000 - Last Updated / Reviewed On: September 14, 2007
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Dear Alice,

My boyfriend sits on the toilet when he urinates (I thought most guys stand when they urinate). This seems unusual. Any thoughts?

Dear Reader,

Maybe he's tired. Could your boyfriend be bashful about broadcasting his business? Did he grow accustomed to sit-down pees as a kid from having gone to the women's room with his mom? Could he be taking care of two things at once? Is he reading, too? Maybe he's splash proofing so you'll stay dry? Don't know what the stats are on positions-when-urinating, but it's probably safe to say that most guys stand, largely because it's faster and easier, plus urinals don't make for comfortable seating. Does this mean that dudes who settle down to pee are weird... or wishin' they were women? If you're the betting type, put your money on the earlier explanations.

If you want to start a discussion on urination positions, you could either try standing yourself the next time nature calls (if you're a woman); or, over a romantic dinner, you can say, "Hey honey, I've noticed that you tinkle hands-free — you know, like you're only supposed to do for #2." Or, "I've heard that you pee sitting down and I was wondering... what's up with that?" Point: If you and your boyfriend are happy and tight, perhaps the exacts of his excretions aren't really important. Shucks, don't we all deserve to pee in peace?

Alice

August 16, 2007

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I started to mostly sit down to urinate maybe ten years years ago (I'm 43) simply to avoid the mess and clean-up of splashing. If you've ever seen the dividers in a mens room rusting-out (and...
I started to mostly sit down to urinate maybe ten years years ago (I'm 43) simply to avoid the mess and clean-up of splashing. If you've ever seen the dividers in a mens room rusting-out (and stinking...), that's what eventually convinced me I was making a gross mess in my own home that you don't see so much each time, but it accumulates. Get down and look at the sides of any bowl men have used and you'll probably notice yellow streaks and puddles around the bolts. Gross! My current girlfriend (who has 20-somethings son and a daughter), mentioned 'the men option' early in our relationship, and she finds it inconsiderate of men to make a mess (for usually others to clean up), when it's alleviated by simply sitting down.

June 25, 2007

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There is one other possible explanation for this gentleman's preference. There is a condition called Paruresis (or Bashful Bladder syndrome) and it is a form of anxiety that can range from moderate...
There is one other possible explanation for this gentleman's preference. There is a condition called Paruresis (or Bashful Bladder syndrome) and it is a form of anxiety that can range from moderate to extreme. I recommend going to http://www.paruresis.org/ for more info.

May 9, 2004

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Dear Alice, I have to respond to this as a mom of two boys. Men and boys are not exactly good at aiming when standing. Plus, there is always splash back, which mom must clean. I make my boys sit...
Dear Alice, I have to respond to this as a mom of two boys. Men and boys are not exactly good at aiming when standing. Plus, there is always splash back, which mom must clean. I make my boys sit when peeing; it's less mess for me. But, when in public, they do stand, to fit in with the norm. California

May 9, 2004

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Dear Alice, I decided to sit while urinating after working as the janitor in a men's dorm at a university. The mess associated with urinals and toilets was amazing. I realized that I wanted to clean...
Dear Alice, I decided to sit while urinating after working as the janitor in a men's dorm at a university. The mess associated with urinals and toilets was amazing. I realized that I wanted to clean bathrooms less often and sitting would reduce the need to clean. Disgusted at Work

May 9, 2004

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Dear Alice, I am a male who does the same thing. The reason is I take medication that makes it hard to pee. Standing up could take as long as 2 - 5 minutes. When I sit down, for some reason I relax...
Dear Alice, I am a male who does the same thing. The reason is I take medication that makes it hard to pee. Standing up could take as long as 2 - 5 minutes. When I sit down, for some reason I relax and it becomes easier and normal. When I'm not on this medication, the problem goes away. Seat Down

May 9, 2004

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Dear Alice, I am replying to: BOYFRIEND SITS DOWN WHEN HE URINATES. I am in college and many, many friends of mine who have traveled say that in Europe (England mostly),...
Dear Alice, I am replying to: BOYFRIEND SITS DOWN WHEN HE URINATES. I am in college and many, many friends of mine who have traveled say that in Europe (England mostly), there are stickers/signs in restrooms everywhere showing a man peeing upright, with a red circle and line through it (discouraging it). My friends took one of these home and put it on their toilet for humour. But, I have been told sitting urination for guys is the norm in MANY places, I'm assuming especially in public places. Minnesota

May 9, 2004

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Alice I sit down to pee only at home, as no matter how good of an aim you may think you have, you will still splash and someone (and maybe it's you) may have to clean it up, and that is nasty. It's...
Alice I sit down to pee only at home, as no matter how good of an aim you may think you have, you will still splash and someone (and maybe it's you) may have to clean it up, and that is nasty. It's a common courtesy to the person to whom that chore has been assigned in your home. When I'm in a public place, I use the urinal as it is cleaner for me; however, if there is only a toilet; I at least lift the seat. Again common courtesy; I'm not going to sit on it as bubba and dip shit have already pissed on it, but I'm not going to make it any worse. Common courtesy; if you don't have it, get it.

October 13, 2000

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Dear Alice, RE: BOYFRIEND SITS DOWN WHEN HE URINATES I had to respond to the question about the guy who sat down to pee. I do as well, as do some of my other male friends...
Dear Alice, RE: BOYFRIEND SITS DOWN WHEN HE URINATES I had to respond to the question about the guy who sat down to pee. I do as well, as do some of my other male friends. Part of it is, as you surmised, an attempt to take care of both #1 and #2 in one visit. Part of it is habit due to years of bathroom reading while growing up. But that's not just it (at least not for me). I'm anti-urinal. I never stand when there is a stall available. Urinals stink, there's no privacy, and you do have to worry about splash-back. Plus, there's no toilet paper. It's always embarrassing to pee standing up, finish your business, zip up, and find out there was a little dribble left, which now has created a damp spot on the front of your trousers. That NEVER happens while sitting. I don't know if this makes me odd, or strange, but if it does, so what? If you've taught me anything over the years, Alice, it's that it's better to be the man you are than to worry about what's "normal." So sign me: Sitting on the Throne