I am a twenty-year-old male and consider myself to be heterosexual. The problem is, I have a very strong desire for anal pleasure. When I was fifteen, I discovered that inserting a finger or two into my anus while masturbating really intensifies my orgasms and I have been enjoying this ever since. However, after doing this, I feel really bad about myself and worry that I am gay. It seems that there is a very strong association with any kind of anal pleasure and homosexuality. Does the fact that I enjoy stimulating my anus while masturbating have anything to do with my sexual orientation?
You're certainly not alone in your discovery of rectal pleasure by stimulating the prostate gland and sensitive nerves around the anus — even if you didn't know that's what you were doing. When touched or massaged, the prostate — about a half-inch inside the opening of the anus — is a spot in men's bodies that heightens sensations during many a male masturbation session, including at the time of orgasm. Why here? This area is kind of like the Space Shuttle launch pad: it's where the fluids of ejaculation gather just before they take off up the shaft of the penis. The immense energy prior to lift-off, complete with all that smoke and fire, is analogous to the pressure and super-sensitivity around the anus just before you shoot your payload into space, your partner, or wherever.
Many heterosexual men may never go there for a good time because associate any kind of anal contact with being gay. However, there are plenty of straight singles and couples alike who give and receive anal stimulation in different ways. Therefore, partaking in anal stimulation definitely does not equate to being a gay man. If you fantasize about sex with women while you pull your penis and probe your anus, well, that's pretty strong evidence of heterosexuality. In the end, a your sexual orientation is far less important than your awareness and recognition that your body is yours to enjoy!Alice!